WisBlog

mentalhealth1

Which personality pattern are you?

Wish something had gone better? If you look back on a situation, and feel some regret about how you responded to it, chances are you were in pattern.   A patterned response is anything that prevents us from being fully and wholly present, and having access to a fresh and creative response to a given

a pile of golden poop

The Golden Turd of Feelings

Bear with me while I stretch this metaphor beyond all standards of polite company. We often refer to unwelcome emotions as our “shit.” Someone who can name it, claim it, deal with it on their own, and not act out toward others is said to be able to “own their shit.” When we do bring

michelleo

Post Trumpatic Stress Disorder: Ten Ways to Heal, Stoke Hope, and Stay Energetically Resourced

Have you been feeling despairing? Weak in the knees and spine? At a complete and utter loss for how to deal with those around you who seem to living in a completely foreign universe, unaware of the looming monsters so clearly before your eyes? You’re not alone. Threats and violence based on perceived membership in

Gregg's dirty feet

The Dirty Side of Healing

Civilization gave us many things, like combustion engines, fast food, and digital screens. Walls, floors and ceilings. Shoes. Fashion. Division of labor and interchangeable parts. Polite society. Standardized spelling. And yes, clean feet. It turns out many of these things harm our bodies. A sedentary lifestyle is deadly to our health. EMFs  (electromagnetic fields put out by device

20151014_083811

Just look at you!

Just look at you. You might have heard this from a doting aunt when you show up at the family reunion a foot taller. Or, Listen to yourself, from a concerned friend when you spin a victim-y yarn.  Sometimes it’s hard to know how we sound or appear to others, or what our impact is. Wisdom of

2-hissing-cats

Six Paradoxes of Intimacy

“Intimacy” brings to mind two people deeply connected, maybe in the throes of passion, definitely focused on each other to the exclusion of the rest of the world. Over the long term, maintaining the health and robustness of an intimate connection with another takes measures that might seem counterintuitive. Nurturing intimacy sometimes takes knowing the

rootcanal

Could Intimacy be More Fun Than Root Canal?

A couple of days ago, I asked someone who had written me a long extremely critical email catalyzed by nothing I could identify, and apologized only after I followed up, if we could finally have a face-to-face, and they responded that that sounded like about as much fun as a visit to the dentist you’ve been putting

Non-hugging psychotherapist

Your therapist doesn’t hug you, either?

Neither does mine. And she’s not asleep, stupid, nor a cold fish… As much as she might want to let her nurturing instincts loose and spoon me while I shed my tears, she’s bound by the rules she got licensed with. So unless they want to be permanently banned from their profession, they’re not going to snuggle up

Confessions of a “Bad Client”

When I was about eight years old, I found a copy of Haim Ginott’s Between Parent and Child, and read it cover to cover, fascinated. It was all about empathic listening, and reflecting back to your kid what they were saying instead of dismissing them or simply directing them to do your parental bidding. I tried

BoyAlone

The Opposite of Love (& how we hold it)

It’s been said that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. When an adult is so absorbed in their own experience that they fail to attend to the children for whom they care, those children’s needs get neglected. That neglect can take the form of lack of food, clothing or shelter. However, as